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“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'”

The ex

So prior to my recent relationship I was married to another man who cheated. We were married for 15 years, together 20 years, known each other for 25 years. He cheated once at 7 years of marriage and I gave him a chance. Then at 14 years again he cheated only worse because it was a close person to our family. Now he is in my life only because he is the father of our children. Since my recent break up he has been very friendly with me, flirting and from what I think he is trying to possibly start up something with me. NO!!!!! I do not see him that way anymore. I do not think of him in a loving way anymore. I think he is feeling regretful, but I just don't have it for him anymore. We have gone to dinner with the kids only and he flirts with me, but it's just not the same anymore. There was too much hurt and anger that he caused me and I will never be able to forgive him for that. I am over it and I can be nice to him and talk to him for our kids, but for me, there is no way that we will ever be anything more then just parents to our children together. I guess the grass was not so green on the other side as he thought it was going to be. I asked him why he is not with his love, and he said she is too busy on her side of the tracks. I took that as they do not have much of a relationship. I don't feel sorry for him. He deserves what he gets. I knew they would not end up being happy. They started out with lies and more lies so how can you have a honest relationship that begins like that. I'm better off without him. Now if I can just find that man that will be a loving and loyal man. I think I am a very loving and giving person and as long as I am treated with respect, I will love that man with everything I have. As for my ex, I will give him only credit for one thing. He loves his children.

My son

My son who has lived with me since he was born is now living with his father. I am having a difficult time with this because he is the love of my life. He was my first born and after the divorce he lived with me and we have never been apart until my recent break up with the one who I thought was it for me. My son did not care too much for him and I think our relationship was damaged because I did not see what he saw and I did not hear him or consider his feelings until it was too late. My son said I only thought of my boyfriend and not him anymore. I told him he was being silly and to never think that of me. I always put my children first and when I got involved with this new person, I actually did something for me for a change. I was happy in the beginning and even my son was OK with him at first, but things changed and my son did not like the changes he was seeing in me. I felt that no one was happy for me being happy. I felt that everyone was against my new relationship and that they did not know what they were talking about. That included my son too. If only I would have listened to him then maybe things would be different. I really don't know, but one thing I learned is always take your kids feelings into consideration when dating after divorce. We moved in together way too soon and my son had told me that he thought it was too soon. Once again I should have took his thoughts into consideration. He was 16 at the time. My daughter just thought about how fun it would be to have his kids move in so she was happy about it. I was in love, truly in love and I have not been in love for a very, very, long time so I had the blinders on. It's hard to learn by experience especially when it involves your children. The next time I will take my time and really get to know the person. One thing that is happening for my son's sake is that he is bonding again with his dad and I think maybe that might be good for him right now. The only thing that I fear is that he won't want to live with me again when I get back on my feet.

My September

In my September, he left me one Friday, told me he loved me, said I will see you soon.
I asked,"where will you stay tonight?, he said," camping with the kids". I thought it strange as he had no camping equipment. Never the less, as the night went on, I asked again in a text where they would be staying, but I got no answer. I went on the computer and what did I find, but emails from her to him. They were about their plans and their future they were planning together and details of the trip they were on at that very moment. He took his kids to meet the women he was going to leave me for. My September began with a lie. I had so much faith and trust inside and they were ripped out of me that September night. I tried to ask him why, but he had nothing to say. How could he say anything knowing that I now knew what he did. He was caught and had no way out of this lie. All he could say was, "Sorry". Sorry? Sorry was not going to cut it this time. That was the beginning of my departure in September. My September got worse. A trip that was supposed to be 4 days, became a week and during that week, I packed my belongings, which happen to be the whole house. I left him and his kids, with an empty house. It was the hardest thing I ever did because I did not want to hurt the kids, but it was his decision to hurt me and I was not going to live with a cheater and a lair any longer. So I will never forget My September.

Found these quotes on, yourlifehappiness.com

"I don't miss him, I miss who I thought he was"

"No Guy Is Worth Your Tears & When You Find The One That Is He Won't Make You Cry"

............................................My experience

"Give it time and you will get over this break up", everyone says. How many times did I hear that from everyone, and I hated hearing it. I thought my life was over and I would never love again at that moment and I wanted to tell everyone to keep their advise to themselves. Of course they were right. As the time has gone by, I do feel better about everything. I used to lay in bed at night and thoughts would just spin and spin in my head about what I did or did not do, or why he looked else where when I gave him everything he wanted. It wasn't me, it was him. He is just a chronic cheater. After finding out more information that I did not have at the time, I see now he will never change. He will not change for me and he will never change for anyone. I gave him my everything and he even admitted that he had no complaints. Time is what I needed and still need to heal.
Anyone have more advise for me?

Quote by Marilyn Monroe

I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go. Things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right. You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.

Marilyn Monroe
American Singer & Actress
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Getting over

It is really hard to get over a break up and it's hard to say good-bye to that one love you envisioned as the love of your life. You start out so upset and depressed. You lose your appetite and just want to stay home and feel sorry for yourself. Eventually though, things do get better with time. The one thing that you have to do is Accept it. You didn't need that person in your life and there is a reason why they are no longer a part of it. Don't be afraid of letting the tears out. It's OK to cry. All the Anger that you felt for that person is OK too. You should be angry at what they did to you. Remember that you must give your heart time to heal. You will learn to smile again and you will be happy. The past is the past so forget about what you could have done to change what happened. Look to what is in store for your future now. Once you realize that it is over, learn from what has happened and maybe next time you will see the signs that tell you to run for your life before you get in too deep. You will be able to move on and not rush to fined someone else. LIFE will do it's work for you. You just need to have fun and be who you are. That someone that is out there just for you will find you.
Just me thinking out loud

Daughtry - Over You Lyrics

The words in this song fit

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